WORKBOOK 07 · SAFETY, ADVOCACY & RECOVERY EDUCATION
A survivor-led workbook for identity, boundaries, parenting, self-trust, shame, grief, finances, relationships, community, and nervous-system recovery.
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INDIVIDUAL CONCEPTS AND ACTIVITIES
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CONCEPT 01
Relief, grief, fear, anger, numbness, joy, longing, exhaustion, and uncertainty may coexist. Continued contact, court, parenting, finances, housing, or community ties can complicate the word after.
Write only what is safe to keep. Skip, adapt, pause, or use a trained advocate, attorney, licensed provider, qualified interpreter, or emergency service when appropriate.
CONCEPT 02
Control can shrink preference and experimentation. Begin with low-stakes choices: food, music, clothing, rest, privacy, routine, creativity, and who receives access to your time.
Write only what is safe to keep. Skip, adapt, pause, or use a trained advocate, attorney, licensed provider, qualified interpreter, or emergency service when appropriate.
CONCEPT 03
A boundary describes what you will do; it cannot guarantee cooperation. Safety planning comes before confrontation where abuse, stalking, or retaliation may continue.
Write only what is safe to keep. Skip, adapt, pause, or use a trained advocate, attorney, licensed provider, qualified interpreter, or emergency service when appropriate.
CONCEPT 04
Children and dependents may need predictability, honest age-appropriate language, routine, and permission for mixed feelings. Avoid using them as messengers or investigators.
Write only what is safe to keep. Skip, adapt, pause, or use a trained advocate, attorney, licensed provider, qualified interpreter, or emergency service when appropriate.
CONCEPT 05
Self-trust can grow through small promises kept, accurate noticing, consent with yourself, and reviewing outcomes without punishment. Being deceived or controlled does not mean you lack judgment.
Write only what is safe to keep. Skip, adapt, pause, or use a trained advocate, attorney, licensed provider, qualified interpreter, or emergency service when appropriate.
CONCEPT 06
Responsibility asks what can be repaired or learned. Shame declares you are the harm. Abuse belongs to the person choosing abusive behavior. Survival decisions deserve context.
Write only what is safe to keep. Skip, adapt, pause, or use a trained advocate, attorney, licensed provider, qualified interpreter, or emergency service when appropriate.
CONCEPT 07
You may grieve a person, hoped-for future, home, community, identity, time, money, health, or trust. Grief does not mean returning is safe or leaving was wrong.
Write only what is safe to keep. Skip, adapt, pause, or use a trained advocate, attorney, licensed provider, qualified interpreter, or emergency service when appropriate.
CONCEPT 08
Begin with information about income, benefits, debts, credit, taxes, insurance, housing, childcare, legal costs, identity theft, and records. Seek qualified individual guidance.
Write only what is safe to keep. Skip, adapt, pause, or use a trained advocate, attorney, licensed provider, qualified interpreter, or emergency service when appropriate.
CONCEPT 09
There is no required timeline. Notice respect for no, pacing, privacy, friendships, money, sexual consent, conflict, and independence. Green flags are patterns, not performances.
Write only what is safe to keep. Skip, adapt, pause, or use a trained advocate, attorney, licensed provider, qualified interpreter, or emergency service when appropriate.
CONCEPT 10
Recovery may include sleep, movement, medical care, medication as prescribed, therapy, sensory support, culture, spirituality, play, advocacy, nature, routine, and community. Agency matters as much as calm.
Write only what is safe to keep. Skip, adapt, pause, or use a trained advocate, attorney, licensed provider, qualified interpreter, or emergency service when appropriate.
CONCEPT 11
A future plan may be one protected hour, one document, one safe friendship, one joyful ritual, one practiced skill, or one voiced need.
Write only what is safe to keep. Skip, adapt, pause, or use a trained advocate, attorney, licensed provider, qualified interpreter, or emergency service when appropriate.
Call 911 in the U.S. or Canada for immediate danger or medical emergency.
Call 911Call or text 988 in the U.S. or Canada. Service and emergency-response practices vary.
Call 988U.S. National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-SAFE, text START to 88788, or thehotline.org.
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